The Grateful Life

Belly Buttons February 26, 2013

Filed under: Parenting,Stories — Nicole Welle Nere @ 10:23 am
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I was home alone with the boys over the weekend.  After bath time on Saturday night, Caelum and I were talking about belly buttons.  I explained how everyone has one, and it’s where we used to be connected to our mommies to get food.  He was enthralled.

He went to bed pretty well not long after that.  Tucked him in to his bed with Bruce, Chris’ old homemade Cabbage Patch doll.  Bruce is soft and loved, and his head turns 360 degrees, so he’s not always facing forward!  All was quiet in Caelum’s room for about 15 minutes, so I assumed he had fallen asleep pretty quickly.

All of a sudden I hear his door creak open slowly.  I look up, and Caelum is standing in the doorway peaking out, Bruce under his arm.

“Caelum, what’s going on?”

“Bruce doesn’t have a belly button!”  his terrified voice declared.  Oh my goodness, my heart just melted as I tried to hold back my chuckle.

I rushed over and knelt down next to him.  “Honey, it’s okay.  See, here’s Bruce’s belly button!”  All it took was a little turn of poor Bruce’s head so that he was facing the right direction again.  Poor Caelum had been lying in bed all that time, searching and agonizing over Bruce’s lack of belly button!

“Ooohhhh,” he said with a slight smile, and immediately he turned and headed back to bed.  All was okay again!  Love it!


How We Treat Ourselves November 15, 2012

Filed under: Parenting — Nicole Welle Nere @ 5:16 pm
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Have been reading a new parenting site I recently found,  It’s focus is on effective attachment parenting, which I love.  It lists the top ten reasons to use Positive Parenting, and #10 is “How you treat your child is how she will learn to treat herself.  That is some great truth, so simple, and yet easy to overlook.  Our children learn what they live.

In addition to this, I also happened to see a different post on a related angle:  that how you treat yourself is how your child will learn to treat herself.  It was from a mother that realized she needed to start seeing herself as beautiful, just as she sees her daughters as beautiful, and just as they see her now.  If they only see and hear their mother talking about her wrinkles or saggy butt or stretched stomach, they’re going to grow up thinking that is how women are:  never good enough, never beautiful once we pass the age of 22.

No woman wants her daughter to grow up thinking she’s ugly.  No woman wants her sons to grow up thinking only Barbie doll perfection is beautiful.  So why do we allow ourselves to think that way?  It starts with us.

This isn’t a problem of the big bad “they” that we blame everything on.  WE are “they,” and we have the power to change our own perceptions and our own attitudes.  It starts with us.


Snuggle Times Two October 22, 2012

Filed under: Time Well Spent — Nicole Welle Nere @ 4:00 pm
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One of my favorite things is when I am nursing Everett on a Saturday or Sunday morning and Caelum comes to snuggle with us.  We’re usually pretty squished on the recliner together, and Everett has to be adjusted and readjusted to half lie on Caelum’s lap too, but it is the sweetest.  I may not be nursing my toddler, but I am still giving him all the loves and snuggles he needs in that moment.  And Everett gets to be close to his two favorite people in the world.  What could be better?


Being Needed & Wanted October 19, 2012

Filed under: Into the Deep — Nicole Welle Nere @ 9:42 am
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Today I am grateful for being needed and wanted.  The way a baby just needs his mama sometimes, just desiring to be close to her and held, because she is safe and comforting and makes the whole world a better place – that is a beautiful thing.  Annoying sometimes, yes, and heartbreaking sometimes too, when you must say goodbye in the morning, but something to be grateful for nonetheless.  It basically boils down to being loved, and there’s nothing better than that.  I love you too, Everett.